Life strategies

How to stop waiting and start living


Have you showed up in life yet, or are you simply waiting?

Are you spending your life going through the motions, but not actually living?

So many times I hear people say, “I can’t wait until my kids are grown”, “I can’t wait until I get a new job”, “I can’t wait until I lose weight”, “I can’t wait until I’m debt free”, “I can’t wait until I graduate”, or “I can’t wait until Friday”. People spend their lives waiting. Waiting on the next big thing, waiting on things to change, waiting on a miracle.

While you are waiting, life is still happening.

That is the thing about waiting, life doesn’t wait with us. Life doesn’t say, “Oh let me stand still until this happens.” Nope, life continues on! While you are waiting, several busses are passing you by and before you know it life has passed you by,  you find yourself thinking where did the time go?

It is time to stop waiting around, it is time to show up in your life and arrive!

I want to share some really sad news with you, you’re dying.

I’m not sure if the doctor has told you or not, but the truth is you are terminally ill. I am not sure how much longer you have left, but it isn’t looking good. You may be thinking, “Geez, Thanks Tanyell for that wonderful information.” But the truth is, we are all dying. Everyday that we take a breath, we are one day closer to our last breath. In fact, Death is the only thing guaranteed in life, the one thing you can count on.

Imagine if you took this message to heart, and you really began to live your life as though you were dying.

Would you still be waiting?

Now that I have your attention, I want to share a very simple formula to stop waiting and start living!

The formula is A.R.R.I.V.E™! What exactly does ARRIVE mean? Appreciate, Rejoice, Respect, Improve, Vaporize, and Enjoy every single day! This is how you ARRIVE in life and stop waiting.

Everyday when you wake up ARRIVE!

Start with appreciating your life and the breath that you are breathing. Before you take one step out of the bed in the morning, say thank you for the life you have. Understanding, yes things could always be better, but also understanding  things could always be worst. You hate your job…you have a job! You wish you were skinnier…’re not immobile. Appreciate what you have, appreciate what you don’t have! I may have bills, but I am so thankful I am not homeless. I am so appreciative that I don’t have a paralyzing illness.

There are many things we could have and thankfully we do not!


 After you have taken the time to appreciate your life for what it is, Rejoice! Get excited about the day. Think about it this way, someone took their last breath and someone is taking their last breath; however, today wasn’t your day.

There are so many ways to get excited in the morning when you may be feeling down.  Play your favorite song, meditate, dance, drink a good cup of coffee. Whatever you need to do, take the time to really rejoice in the day.

The next step is to Respect yourself and your life. When  you really begin to respect yourself and your life, you begin to take pride in the things you do. When you really respect yourself, you take the time out to feed yourself a decent and nourishing meal as well as begin to watch the things you put into your body. When you respect yourself, you take pride in your job and the things that you are doing at work, and if you feel under appreciated, over worked, or under paid you respect yourself enough to find something more deserving.

Those who respect themselves are only going to expect, receive, and give the best for themselves.

Once you respect yourself, you can begin to Improve yourself and Ignite a fire. Everyday is another day to improve something you are unhappy about. Rather than waiting, begin to improve and do those things now. “As soon as my kids are older, we are going to take more vacations” Ignite that fire now! What is your reason for waiting? Finances? Improve your finances, so that you can ignite the fire, and take those vacations now.

Whatever it is that you are waiting on to be different in order for you to start living your life, you begin to improve and ignite the fire to those things.

You are no longer waiting around for things to fall into place, instead you are improving your situation, however, you can and beginning to ignite a fire within yourself and life that is going to vaporize any negativity and drama that you may have been facing before.

Vaporize the drama and negativity in your life. You have ignited a fire in your life and with that fire you can turn that negativity into a gas that disappears! When you are trying to live your life, you can’t be held down by other people. These people are the people who find a way to discuss everything that is negative in their life and your life. You know when you are in the presence of this person, because when you leave them you feel drained, sad, or depressed. You leave them worrying and feeling like the weight of the world is now on your shoulder. These are the people you must Vaporize.

If you want to soar and really begin to the see the magnificent sights of this thing called life, you have to get rid of the dead weight. What and/or who is holding you down, back, and have you still believing that you have to wait for the perfect moment to live.


The final step is to get excited and energized about living life! Surround yourself with happy people, express your excitement about life, YOUR life. If you find yourself feeling down and out, recharge your battery and regain your energy and excitement about life. You may need to put on a great song and dance, take a bath, go shopping, spend time with your children, or whatever it is that brings you joy and energy! The goal is to feel the positive energy in your life and get excited about it!

I understand that life isn’t a cake walk, and there will be times that you don’t want to get on the bus. There will be times you find yourself waiting on things to change, however remember life will continue on.

When you begin to understand that the bus isn’t going to wait for you and things aren’t going to change without you being in the game, you will finally begin to live life.

Once you begin to live life and ARRIVE everyday you will certainly see life begin to change and suddenly you are no longer waiting, but you are on the bus and enjoying the ride!

Everyone has a destination in their mind on where they see life going, but the key is to enjoy the journey on the way to the destination. It is in the journey of life that we find joy, happiness, love, wisdom, and peace!

The tragedy of life is not that it ends so soon, but that we WAIT so long to begin it -W.M Lewis

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