Running a Business and Homeschooling. How do you do it?

How do you homeschool with everything else you have going on in your life? This is one of the most common questions I get when people learn that I homeschool all my children. When most people think of homeschooling, they think of school at home. They imagine kids at home sitting in front of a desk with me teaching at the chalkboard. Don’t get me wrong, when I first started my homeschooling journey, that is precisely what I thought, and that is exactly what I did. However, like many things in life, as I grew and matured in my homeschooling journey, I realized that homeschooling really meant schooling from the heart.

Like most things in life, I realized you learn from experiencing, doing, watching others do, trying and failing, and sometimes from great teachers. Schooling encompasses so much more than just sitting at a desk.

So as we prepared to move to a new city, I had to once again readjust how we would school from the heart. I had to listen to my kids, pay attention to the things in their hearts (besides Roblox), and figure out how to nurture them so they could learn from them. I realized art was speaking to several of them. They found peace, joy, and creativity in creating things by building, drawing, painting, coloring, or creating.

Building things from Legos and Kits is one of the things they love to do. Sometimes they prefer access to tons of legos and create something from their imaginations. Other times they like to have instructions and see a pictures become real life. The same applies to drawing and painting. But how is this schooling? How are they learning math, reading, writing, or anything? Don’t they need books, programs, guidance, and structure? I am glad you asked.

Let’s start with math. When is the last time you have used algebra, geometry, or any kind of math? Most of us will probably give examples of basic math, counting money, adding things to create a budget, and maybe measuring something. However, most of us probably can’t remember the last time we used geometry or algebra. Well, if you’ve hung a gallery wall and made sure your photos were equally hung, laid any kind of flooring in your house, did any interior design, or used directions without google maps, then guess what, my friend, you have used geometry. I was that kid that would raise my hand in geometry and algebra and ask the teacher when would I use this in my life, and often find myself in the principal’s office for this “disruption” of the class. Still, I remember my geometry teacher graciously telling me that if I ever got to own a house and wanted to put hardwood floors in, I would need to know geometry. I proudly announced I would hire someone to do it! I was fortunate to own a house and lay hardwood floors, but I didn’t hire someone. I married someone who could do it. The plot twist is that someone never took geometry!

How did my husband know how to lay hardwood floors, and how could he do it with such precision and never take a geometry class? He was a creator as a child, a doer, and a hands-on learner. He was the kid that followed his dad around, watching every move he made and asking if he could help. Wanting to play with his tools. He loved to play with Legos and build model cars. In his adulthood, puzzles are one of his favorite pastimes. He didn’t realize he was doing geometry when he worked side by side with his dad, measured something, built a model car, or painted something. Can he give you a formula? Probably not, but can he do it for you or teach you how? Absolutely!

Let’s talk about algebra. When was the last time you used algebra? Well, if you’ve cooked, done any budgeting, did your taxes, did any landscaping, or played a sport, you’ve used algebra unknowingly. As a homemaker and small business owner, I use algebra quite frequently. I follow recipes, create recipes, budget for my family and our business, look at profits and losses, etc. I do all these things without using a single algebra formula. In fact, the only formula I remember from algebra is PEMDAS, and I can’t tell you the last time I used that in real life, except when helping my kids complete a homework assignment. The reality is I loved cooking as a kid. I loved budgeting and playing with money. My granny would give me her old checkbooks, and I would write checks and budget the checkbook for hours. It was so much fun for me. She was a nurse, and she would bring home IV bags for me to play with, and I would hook my cabbage patch kids up to them and create “formulas” on how much dosage to give them. In fact, this was one of my show and tell projects as a kid. All of this was me doing algebra without even knowing that’s what it was.

How does this apply to my children and our heart schooling today? Once again, I am glad you asked. Building kits provide reading fundamentals. They must follow instructions, use critical thinking, memorize, and, more importantly, read. This same activity uses geometry and algebra skills; they must use spatial visualization and formulas to get the correct measurements and pieces to line up correctly. While not doing physical writing or activities, they passively learn writing skills by reading the instructions. Although, I could ask them to write about their building experience, describe the item they built, create a for-sale ad, etc., to provide physical writing activities. Through doing art and creative play, my children have been able to continue their learning without the constraints of a desk and traditional education. I have eased my stress levels as their mother and teacher during this transitional time by providing them with fun, easy-going, yet challenging projects. It’s a win for all parties involved.

Seeing their projects come to life is a tangible and, in my opinion, way more sustainable school project than writing a paper or passing an exam.

As my son finished building his model of the Titanic, he marveled at the idea that this model could and probably will be in his family for generations. We talked about how in 100 years, his great great great grandchildren would tell stories about how their grandfather built this Titanic with his own hands when he was 12 years old. The idea of this made his heart swell with pride and joy. I don’t know about you, but none of my 6th-grade projects are being passed down for generations.

Ok, sure, this all sounds wonderful, but you didn’t answer my question. How exactly are you homeschooling them with everything going on in your life?

I’m not! By providing my kids with the opportunity to do things that make their hearts happy and allow them to follow passions that are brewing inside of them, I am letting my kids lead what they want to do. By removing myself, my thoughts, limiting beliefs, social norms, and social constraints and allowing them to learn through existing and experiencing, I am teaching them that following their hearts will always lead them where they need to be.

They will learn all they need to know on the journey. Their passions will always lead to success.

Success is a heart thing.

It’s perspective and relative to the person who gives it meaning. You don’t need to know the formulas to build Rome; you only need passion, desire, courage, and will.


You home school……

imgres     What do you do all day? What do they do all day? How long do you do school? Do y’all watch t.v all day? Are you qualified to teach? Do they have any friends? What do you do for extra curricula activities? I don’t know how you do it! These are just a few of the annoying curious question/statements I get when people learn that my children are homeschooled. When I say that it pisses me off, I am being kind with my words. Sometimes I have to realize that it is simply people’s ignorance lack of knowledge about homeschooling and understanding how homeschooling works. People tend to make irrational judgements about things they don’t understand. What frustrates me the most about these questions, is people often assume that my children are at home playing video games all day and cut off from the world. I love when people say, “I sure hope they don’t get into the real world and go crazy because they have been sheltered.” Let me attack address this statement.

When did sheltering protecting our children become a bad thing? For me, my goal is to allow my children to be just that, children. They have the rest of their life to grow up, be adults, and deal with this big bad world. Of course I am going to equip them for the real world, but in an appropriate order. I want my children to maintain their ignorance innocence and the joy they see in this world. The idea that my oldest daughter has no desire to kiss a boy, thinks that sex only means female and male, and wants her daddy on every single date when she gets older as protection, is bliss to my ears! Do I encourage these thought and belief system, of course, will my world come crashing down if these ideas change for her, of course not; however, right now at 11, she is exactly where she should be. I love the idea that they still want to play with dolls and wear ponytails. I see nothing ludicrous about this. Our culture has a way of rushing life and rushing us to grow up. It makes sense where this idea of rushing children to grow up comes from. There was a time when adults needed children to grow up and be little adults to help take care of the family, but these rules no longer apply. We can’t double talk, although that is what we do. You are old enough to go to the military fight for your country put your life on the line, buy cigarettes, but heaven forbid you have a drink! (okay that’s another soapbox)

“Aren’t you worried, they aren’t going to know how to interact with their peers?” “Do they have friends?” What is it about homeschooling that makes people think our children are locked in closets cut off from the world. Honestly, homeschoolers (mine anyway) are some of the most “socialized” children I know. Because our children aren’t spending hours doing busy work and learning test taking skills going to traditional school, they are able to participate in life with real people, might I add all kinds of people! We aren’t segregated in homes school by age and grade. This means that our children play, communicate, and interact with all kinds of people giving them the capability to be able to communicate with several different types of people not just their peers of the same age. The homeschooling world is a world of several different types of people and when you immerse yourself into this world, your children are exposed to all types of people. There are children that go to school every single day and do not have a clue how to interact with people or who aren’t sociable at all. Besides, when did school become about learning social skills?

“What do you do all day?” This presumptions question alone ticks me off not only as a working stay home mom, but also as a homeschooling mom. Here is one for you what do you do all day on your job? I didn’t know that a house could run itself, and because I am homeschooling my children chances are I am schooling my children! I’m not exactly sure where the soap opera theory originated from, but if I could get 10 min of uninterrupted time to sit on my butt and do nothing, I don’t think I would waste that precious, valuable, and golden time on watching t.v. No sir! I can think of several other things I could be doing with that time.

“I don’t know how you do it!” I don’t expect you to. For me homeschooling is a calling, and God knows who those select are that will be called for this duty. I never intended to home school my children, but it was loud and clear when God called me to duty. I am thankful for this calling, thankful that we are resourceful to be able to do this, and thankful that we have the right to be able to educate our children at home. I don’t know how a police officer does his job or how a gynecologist looks at vaginas all day these things were not my calling.

“Are you qualified to teach?” To ask am I qualified to teach my own children is like asking a person are they qualified to parent their own children. I am not teaching a classroom full of other people’s children, I am teaching my children. Homeschooling my children encompasses so many things, it isn’t just about learning reading, writing, arithmetic, but it is also about learning life skills, building a family bond, fostering independence and a love for learning, building skills and knowledge to be productive citizens, learning to problem solve, and nurturing talents and gifts already within. I love spending time with my children and to see the sparkle and glow in their eyes when they solve a problem or learn a new skill. I was there for all my children first; first word, first steps, first words read, first math problem solved, and so much more. Many of these goals, I didn’t need a certificate of qualification to help them achieve.

No one wants their child to succeed more than the parent. I want my children to be the best version of themselves and for us homeschooling allows us to work toward that. But it goes beyond future success, the memories we are building through homeschooling are memories that could never replaced. The freedom of not being tied down to someones else schedule and the freedom to vacation when we want, and tie education into these vacations is pure bliss. Homeschooling isn’t all bells and whistles, it’s not for the faint of heart, however, it is a blessing for those of us who are called to walk this journey with our children.

So the next time you run into that home school family, be of encouragement to them rather than critical or condescending. If you are a home school family, be proud of your choice to home school your children! Wear this decision with a badge of honor, and don’t hesitate to educate those that do not have the knowledge about homeschooling. Remember not everyone was fortunate enough to learn outside of the box or think outside of the box.


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